If there is one thing single motherhood has taught me it would be that building your tribe, your community, your connections is HUGE!
Last weekend I was able to reconnect with a highschool friend of mine. It only took us 10 plus years, one divorce, separation, a preteen and teenager later to reconnect but the important thing is we reconnected.
After sharing a couple stories and trying to hold back some tears as we went back to the memory line one thing was clear.
You have a choice.
Yes, you have a choice, my choice was to isolate. I was an embraced young single mom, hiding from society because here I was the stereotypical latina teen mom. On top of me now being the stereotypical I failed my parents, my mom she worked her a** off and there I was seventeen and pregnant.
This was constantly on replay in my head “I am a young latina teen mom, I am the stereotype and I failed.” but if I would have had a community, a place for support, someone to just listen and to be able to share their experience that would have made a difference in my life and even though I didn’t then I have it now and this is why I create one because I want single mothers to understand that you don’t have to do this alone.
Let’s dive into the root cause of self-isolation:
First things first, it's a TRAP. You get sucked right into the web of isolation and the culprit is stress, burnout and loneliness but what we don’t notice is that the lack of social interaction and support takes a toll on your emotional and mental well being.
So why, why would connecting with a group of mothers who have been in your shoes be vital?
It can be transformational when you connect to like minded-individuals you create a network of support, empowerment and encouragement. Brining you a sense of belonging and relief, a place of guidance and new perspectives. Build your tribe, connect to your solo parent community to find solace and strength knowing that you are not alone in this journey.
Before I end this blog let me leave you with three steps you can take to help you take action:
Seek Support: online, in person groups and parenting classes for single moms.
Get social: volunteer, join an activity of interest and clubs for moms.
Reach Out: friends, family, use social media to make single mom friends.
Building a solid community requires action and courage but you have that in you. To break free, get out there, be proactive arrange playdates, join those social gatherings. It’s time to take the first step toward creating a tribe for yourself, a community that will have a positive impact on your transformational journey.
Best always,
Jenifer xo
Ps mama don't forget to join my private facebook group!
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