What I am about to share with you is something I consider should be a must in a rule book about dating as a single mother. This is something that I wish someone would have told me early on in my journey of single motherhood. So, single mamas get a pen and paper ready because you don’t want to forget this.
As a devoted mother that does not mean you don’t deserve to rekindle love or invite a new partner in your life.
Is there a perfect or best time to start dating again well no not really, it’s more of when you feel ready. Whether you start dating a couple months after or maybe years the choice is yours. It took me a couple years, while most I like to say, was a choice this “choice” was also driven by “what will people say” “my daughter should be my priority not dating.” “i’ll date when she's older” and the list goes on but is there really a right or wrong, of course not but I want you to understand that it’s okay to want, to desire a partner and to remember that just because your previous relationship failed doesn’t mean that the next one will too and most importantly that being a mother does not mean love is not for you.
Let’s get back to the fun part. Getting back into the dating scene can be exciting but also intimidating and as a single mom
the intimidation can over power the excitement. Here are a few strategies you can use that can help navigate this new part of your life with grace.
I know you're excited and you should be!
Before you take a dive into the sea of plenty of fish make sure you take time to self-reflect. Make notes of what you want and need in a relationship. Write down your deal-breakers, values and qualities that you deserve in a new partner. Having a clear idea of what you want and deserve will help guide you with your choice in making sure everything is aligned with your priorities.
Take your time. Let go of other expectations of when you should or shouldn't start dating. That urge to rush try your best to resist and when you do meet someone allow the connection to develop naturally, give yourself that time to assess and build that trust. Just like they say, slow and steady wins the race.
And lastly, trust your gut! As a mother you have developed an incredible super power with your instincts. Trust it, if something doesn’t feel right, if you see those red flags don’t ignore them this time. If you’ve been down that road before you know these signs and you know you deserve much more but if you need a reminder go back to those notes, keep reading them until it's stuck like glue into your mind.
There you have it, rock star single mom, you deserve love and happiness in your life. Starting with yourself, your children and that special someone. With self-reflection, taking your time and trusting yourself
while focusing on yours and your children’s well-being you can accept this new journey.
Single mom be patient, don’t lose faith the right person will come into your life when the timing is right and when it does show up, embrace that beautiful found love again and let your heart soar.
Love always,
Jenifer xo
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